A one-time meeting with biological parents can also be offered to adopters before the child is welcomed. Rather, this is what is proposed when the biological parents are able to support the adoption plan. Adopters may find this useful if they write subsequent letters to the child`s birth family and answer the children`s questions in the future. Find out about information that is not available at the time of adoption (for example. B disease occurring after the adoption of the child and which may be hereditary). We will check at the end of the first year, and then every three years, how the mailbox works for you. The aim is to see if the agreement is still in the best interests of the child. If this is not the case, we can make changes to the agreement, for example. B change the number of times letters are exchanged or whether gifts are allowed. Once the adoption order has been completed, you can begin the exchange of letters.
They send letters to our mailbox coordinator who reads the letters before they are sent. We remove confidential information such as addresses and surnames. We will let the sender know that we have not sent his letter. The letter can be kept with the adoption file so that the child can look at it after the age of 18. The Care and Adoption Team maintains the exchange of information mailboxes for all children in Guernsey who will be adopted, whether on or off the island, until the child reaches the age of 18. The adoption mailbox is a means of maintaining indirect contact between adoptive families and birth families through the adoption department that has authorized a child to adopt, following the adoption of an adoption regulation. Once the child reaches the age of 18, the care and adoption service will write to all parties mentioned in the contact agreements to indicate that the file is now closed and archived with the child`s adoption file. We are in contact with his biological family once a year. It was agreed long before we even met him, when our knowledge of the birth family was a difficult report to read. Now, I sometimes wonder if once a year is enough.
The mailbox is not the simplest — it awakens a lot of feelings. Pride and love for the achievements and miracle that my Son brings every day into our world, but also the sadness and (dare I say) the guilt of loss, pain and confusion for everyone involved – first and foremost my Son and his biological family. As usual for adoption, feelings are a complete fusion! Adopted children cannot use the mailbox, but their adoptive parents can share information from the mailbox with them. A copy of all letters is kept in the child`s adoption file. The mailbox stops when the child is 18 years old. You can contact an adoption assistance service to consult the file with or without their adoptive family. Mailbox agreements are put in place for the benefit of all participants in the adoption, but primarily to meet the needs of those who have been adopted in order to prevent a secure, confidential and indirect link with their birth family or other persons important to them. . . .